8 Steps to Successful Personal and Organisational Change

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…”

“…it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness… it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair…”
A Tale of Two Cities, Charles Dickens

Although taken from Dicken’s A Tale of Two Cities, set in the late 18th century, I feel that much of this applies to our current times.

In this blog, I will offer you a number of tips to deal with personal and organisational change, and come out of this season with more options. Most can be done on your own, or with support from an NLP coach.

COVID-19 — Highlighting incongruence?

Since Covid-19 started in March 2020, I have seen wisdom (face masks) and foolishness (hoarding); light and darkness (people’s attitudes); light (NHS) and darkness (death); hope (kindness) and despair (poor health). I have felt the full range of emotions and at moments felt overwhelmed! When I feel too much is changing, I can feel destabilised. What can we do at times like this?

Most of us have aspects that we don’t “like” in ourselves, perhaps:
• Some behaviour that doesn’t support overall who we want to be;
• Lack of follow-through in achieving our goals, be they to be
o Fitter
o Faster
o Stronger
o Better Work/Life Balance
• ‘Part’ of us we’re dissatisfied with and we’d like to change
• A feeling of dissatisfaction

In NLP we call this incongruity. People often refer to the fact that “part of me really wants to (exercise more) but there is a part of me that (can’t get off the couch).

Model of change

Model of Change helps quit the unhelpful behaviours, and ‘remove’ that part.

Question: What would you like to change? — a ‘vision’ or an ‘aspect’ of you?

On your own, or with a coach, you can cast or refine your ‘vision’ (2) of what you want to be and where you want to go in your life (3). Once you have the honed vision you can set goals, supported by action plans. This will enable you to take responsibility for the actions required.

Some areas of change, such as a behaviour or context, are easier to address. The success of programmes such as AA or WeightWatchers work on ‘behaviours’ with group supports acting to encourage maintenance.

Figure 2: The Stages of Change Model

Using NLP’s Logical Levels for Change

For more complex change, at a ‘beliefs’ or ‘values’ level, the following adaption of NLP’s Logical Levels Model by Kotter, offers a context that can be used for organisational as well as personal change.

Figure 3: Adapted from the NLP Coaching Model in Kotter’s 8 steps:

Two types of scenarios:

a. In a crisis — change is desired urgently.

b. When dissatisfied or frustrated with something — urgency can be created through dialogues about the implications of not changing.

Elicit the concern regarding the change. Help understand deeper needs. If there is resistance to the change, then identify the parts of the unconscious mind that are responsible for this, as well as the positive intention of those conflicting parts.

Elicit the desired outcome. Elicit a core purpose or vision for their life.

Help embody the state that is associated with their desired outcome, or life purpose, or vision — through encouraging them to talk about its meaning and value to them in the relevant areas of their life.

There can be hidden benefits to having the problem or resistance to change by a part of the unconscious mind. These should be identified and addressed.

Be encouraged to take small steps that are inspired from the states that arise when they are in alignment with their desired outcome, or purpose, or vision. The outcome, purpose or vision is the goal. Succeeding at this goal is celebrated though taking successive steps that the goal inspires.

The value of regularly checking along the way — “Is this change good for me, as well as those that I interact with, as well as the context in which we co-exist?”

Following up at a specified period after the intervention is recommended. You might need the help of a coach to change your beliefs about the person you used to be, to the new empowering beliefs of the person you want to be from now, and in the future.

It is important to acknowledge the positive benefits to the new behaviour, learning from the experience. (7)

What is resistance trying to tell us?

In organisations, or personal life, if resistance is experienced by a conflict or boundary issue, it is probably because a belief or value has been challenged. Conflict or distrust often originate from communication misunderstandings. Individual and team discussions around core values create better connections and greater understanding.

So, is this current season the best of times or the worst of times? A wise person once wrote there is a “time for everything, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” We will all move along this spectrum multiple times a month. However, even in this current season with plenty to mourn, there has also been time to think, reflect and decide what to change. We cannot predict the future, yet it might even include time to dance once again.

Neuro Linguistic Programmer. Passionate learner and Change maker